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Valentine’s Day: For the not so serious couple

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Not every couple has a dog that they treat like their very own child, not every couple lives together in common law, not every couple shares bank accounts and not every couple or relationship is monogamous. But where I’m from, every couple goes through Valentine’s Day.

For the not- so- serious couple Valentine’s Day can be a complicated time of the year. From a man’s point of view, it’s like playing Russian roulette when trying to decide what to get that not serious, yet special person in your life. And if you’re wondering, yes, a booty call falls into this category.

Through the school of hard knocks, I’ve come to realize that the wrong move on Valentine’s Day can ruin even the most casual relationships. As a man, you can get screwed over in a number of ways. For example, if you decide that the relationship is so casual that all you need to do is simply call her and wish her a Happy Valentine’s Day, or buy her a pair of socks, then that may very well be the last time you have casual relations with her.

Then again, if you decide that you’re going to do something very special for her on Valentine’s Day, then from that day forward the relationship may just turn from casual into “I want a commitment”.

It’s a fine line, a double-edged sword and a slippery slope on Valentine’s Day, but here’s some ways to play it safe.
Keep it casual, but sexy. Don’t go overboard trying to SEXIFY HER, keep it simple. If you’re going to buy her something, keep it casual, inexpensive, but thoughtful and sexy, to reflect the relationship, which if it’s casual, let’s face it, it’s mostly about sex. Buy her lingerie, give her a funny Valentine’s Day card and call it a day.

If you’re planning on going the flowers route, again, don’t go overboard. A dozen red roses says more than “let’s keep this casual.” A single red rose, or some carnations says, “ I like you and I like things the way they are”.

Jewellery should almost be completely out of the question. Generally, anything she can wear around her neck or in her ears, or on her finger is too far, even around the wrist is pushing it. If you’re buying her bling, a nice and sexy ankle bracelet is the way to go. It’s thoughtful and it’s a nice gesture, and it’s stylish, but it’s not as powerful as a locket around the neck.

Other casual gifts include: Stuffed animals, a picture frame with an image of both of you, an iPod with all her favourite songs, a Mac make-up kit, workout gear, perfume, and lastly, my favourite casual Valentine’s Day gift, sex toys.

If you want to keep that relationship casual and not so serious, keep it simple and stick to the basics on Valentine’s Day.

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